Thread:Lowkey done with life/@comment-37869175-20181224194711/@comment-37841075-20181229115208

Alright so you replied at 2 AM so, uh, obviously I didn’t respond right away haha

Also my reply got deleted when I hit “reply” D:< time to get this bread again (typed this up on a google doc so I don’t lose it again or else I’m going to flip a table)

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'PLEASE, PLEASE TALK TO ME IF YOU NEED ANY HELP OR ANYBODY TO SPEAK TO. 'I’m absolutely ready to help out no matter what. If you need a helping hand, don’t feel hesitant to speak to me! I don’t bite and the worst thing I could ever do is turn away someone who’s in need of a listening ear.

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Don’t feel like you can’t talk about dysphoria. I’m truly willing to discuss it in any amount of painful detail should you so desire I do so or should it be required for a deeper understanding of my experience.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but it almost seems like you think dysphoria is like clinical depression and can be medicated away? Unfortunately, you can’t pop a few medications and be done with dysphoria. 

There have been multiple attempts, tracking different medications and intense cognitive behavior therapy for dysphoric people''. The suicide rate within the transgender community is through the roof.''

'''The only approach to it that has worked and produced the happiest people and the best results were when the transgender people were encouraged to accept their gender. Transition is the treatment to dysphoria.'''

Dysphoria is caused when your brain and your body basically screw up and pull the wrong levers for what you’re supposed to be once you exit the womb. Literally, our brains aren’t wired for our bodies. Somewhere during my developing starting from conception my brain structure went “whoops wrong brain structure lol screw u heres some nice tasty dySPHORIA.” (haha don’t you love the humor defense mechanism? :) ) I can’t change it. I tried very hard. But rearranging my brain to fit female? That’s way too risky (I don’t even know if it’s currently possible…) and probably very expensive. So, instead of possibly messing up my head, I chose to change my body, since that’s a lot easier. I usually wear baggy clothes and try to keep an androgynous appearance. I’m blessed enough to naturally have a more masculine facial structure but unlucky enough to have feminine curves, but not most people can tell now that I put effort into my appearance.

In the end, it’s the transition that soothes the dysphoria. That is the best treatment that’s ever come up. I tried everything else I could think of before accepting myself and starting transition, and embracing myself is the best choice I’ve ever made.

I experience a nice burst of gender euphoria whenever people gender me properly, especially in a professional setting. It’s the best. I would totally share the feeling if I could :)

Can you please explain to me how being gay may be malevolent? I’m genuinely asking. I see no way being gay could be inherently harmful.

As for family dynamics, I actually searched it up and happened across a collection of studies tracking the difference between children raised by gay/lesbian parents and children raised by straight parents. As far as these studies show, and there are upwards of 80, there is no significant differences and a child raised by homosexual parents fares no worse than a child raised by straight parents. Only 4 or so, I believe, display that children raised by gay parents are at any disadvantage, and those are in the studies where the gay parent comes out mid-marriage and leaves for a homosexual partner. Most follow the children is some small groups, but there are a few that follow them in a very large number (one of them followed 3,500 children raised by homosexual parents’ advancements through school and saw no difference in emotional problems, behavior problems, scholarly performance, etc.).

My guess is that a child simply needs two trustworthy, reliable figures in their life. However, I don't have my degree in psychology yet, so take that flimsy theory with a lot of grains of salt.

And to conclude, I’d just like to say that I sincerely apologize if I come across as jumpy, suspicious, or like I’m assuming things. Be aware of the fact that LGBTQ+ youths are, statistically, ''twice as likely to be victims of physical assault as their peers. ''You don’t need to religiously support us, but all we ask is that you do not condone any sort of violence or hostility against us. I’m tired of living in fear of being killed for simply existing.

And with that being said, I hope you have a great day. May peace, pride, and love always triumph.