Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-37719459-20181204231525/@comment-37719459-20181217122317

"They [Fitz and Sophie] hardly talk or joke about anything. In a long term relationship (though I guess forever since we're talking about Elves), there needs to be more than just the way your lover looks. That is only one small part of a relationship. They tried to share their secrets but it doesn't exactly amount to much. So far, Fitz shared that he got stuck in a chandelier, or that he sleeps with his dragon plush. But more than that? Not really.

They missed many huge opportunities to open up and be vulnerable to each other, to confide in each other. Example: the time when Alden's mind broke, or when it was revealed that Alvar was apart of the Neverseen all this time. Like maybe, when Alden's mind broke, Fitz could surely rage, but then come back later to apologize and open up to Sophie. Maybe he could have helped her "fix herself" to cure Alden. He had more than enough reasons to be apart of that... but he didn't do it. Or maybe he could have talked about his disbelief in Alvar. Fitz could talk about how heartbroken he is over Alvar's deceit.

Because of those missed opportunities, they seem to be keeping each other at a distance. They don't really understand each other. Sometimes, it's difficult to be honest and say things upfront so you rely on reading how people act. We've seen many cases of this with SoKeefe but hardly any for SoFitz. Fitz doesn't seem to be too interested in Sophie's business until Keefe said something. Example: Dex and his crush bracelets.

Fitz's focus on the matchmaking system. I get that it's important but it shouldn't be the only thing. The fact that he keeps bringing it up to Sophie within the course of 7 books shows how much it means to him, how much he doesn't want to "damage" or shame the family name. The thing is, we've seen Keefe try to stand up to his own family before and break the family expectations. He's afraid of his parents but he's willing to take risks like stay with Lord Cassius at his beach house to help Sophie (in Nightfall). We haven't exactly seen this kind of risk from Fitz.

I think these are important for a long lasting relationship since your "significant other" becomes your family"

-Wensly